- courtesy
- courtesy, amenity, attention, gallantry are comparable when they denote a manner or an act which promotes agreeable or pleasant social relations.Courtesy suggests consideration for others or deference (as to their rank, sex, or age); it usually implies good breeding and acquired graces but it sometimes connotes innate gentleness or instinctive politeness rather than social training{
the beauty of an inherited courtesy ... of a thousand little ceremonies flowering out of the most ordinary relations and observances of life— Binyon
}{rising to receive him . . . with all the engaging graces and courtesies of life— Dickens
}Amenity implies a disposition to make easy the approach to or the continuance of pleasant social relations ; when used concretely it may be applied not only to words or acts but to pursuits, interests, or facilities that bring men into rapport{he was ... a charming letter-writer; above all, an excellent and delightful talker. The gaiety and amenity of his natural disposition were inexhaustible— Arnold
}{he is a man of informed tastes who happens to prize the amenities. A snob, however, he is not and never has had to be—J. M. Brown
}{would she be interested to read it? Might he send it to her? Joan's chaperon . . . put no bar upon these amenities— H. G. Wells
}Attention implies a singling out of a particular person for special favor or consideration, or as the recipient of courtesies showing one's admiration or love (as in courting){the elder son is paying attention to his roommate's sister
}{many of his visitors were busily deferential toward the young lord, and evidently flattered by his attentions— Carlos Baker
}{she loved her children, but did not unduly spoil them or turn their heads with injudicious attentions— Rose Macaulay
}Gallantry stresses devoted attention, sometimes amorous attention, to a lady; it also often connotes ingratiating personal qualities (as ease of address, a dashing style, or a polished manner){"Now despise me if you dare." "Indeed I do not dare." Elizabeth, having rather expected to affront him, was amazed at his gallantry— Austen
}{Cashel, in a businesslike manner, and without the slightest air of gallantry, expertly lifted her and placed her on her feet— Shaw
}Analogous words: graciousness, cordiality, affability, geniality (see corresponding adjectives at GRACIOUS): politeness, cour- teousness, courtliness, chivalrousness or chivalry, civility (see corresponding adjectives at CIVIL): considerateness or consideration, attentiveness, thoughtfulness (see corresponding adjectives at THOUGHTFUL)Antonyms: discourtesy
New Dictionary of Synonyms. 2014.